Quote of the day:
While you judge me by my outward appearance I am silently doing the same to you, even though there's a ninety-percent chance that in both cases our assumptions are wrong. -Richelle E. Goodrich
Reality is special in that it's the here and now. The state of things in the real world a place where we co-exist with other minds. People are quick to point out about the need to face one's reality, to live and not just exist. It's all well and good to be the judge and not the accused. But how difficult it is today not to be critical of the actions of others -especially those that affect our general well being.
When rummaging through libraries and collection of books, taking in the bibliosmia although the covers may be desirable and charming it's the actual knowledge held inside that make all the difference. The written words within which captivate the thoughts and ignites our emotions. We do not judge a book by its appearance -as appearances can be deceptive. For example a book with a great looking cover may contain nothing of value written inside but would still be the first pick in a pile of books. It's easy to miss the books with the valuable books with blank covers underneath.
Same goes for people because when you throw assumption and inference out the window, reality and genuineness springs forth. But in a world where our experiences with some bad eggs make us more cautious, doubtful and suspicious, our assumption is all we hold on to. Trust is very important in life. We trust that things and people will always deliver. You expect a flight not only to be on time but also to be flown safely to your destination. You put your trust in a pilot you have never met, and perhaps an airline you don't fly frequently. Let's assume that you do fly frequently, still your trust is in the airline -a book with a fancy cover. You trust that family and close friends will always be there when you need them. But will you be there when you are needed? Will you show the world the real you, your real thoughts, and not just the camouflage everyone is used to seeing?
You are a book. People treat you good and sometimes they don't. People hold you dearly, care for you even and other times they throw you into a pile. But that is just life. Nobody has it perfectly figured out -not yet anyway. You don't have to alter your appearance to suit anyone, to trap them into liking you because in the end the real you hidden beneath that cover will be exposed. You wouldn't want your worth or value to be pre-judged based on your outlook. Be yourself at all times and those who like you for you will stay to hear your story and help create new and meaningful chapters.
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"Be yourself at all times and those who like you for you will stay to hear your story and help create new and meaningful chapters." Very wise.
ReplyDeleteThank you kind sir, appreciate your visit as always. Greetings!
Deletewise words of wisdom and I believe all of this. one thing I miss at this time in my life is the trust I felt of others, now I look with supscion at every one and wonder if it is safe to be near them or talk to them. I look at others through the eyes of the world news. you are right, I am putting the world view book cover on people I don't know. here road rage is really bad in our area, yet another reason to not trust.
ReplyDeleteIt's understandable, once you lose trust in people it becomes harder to feel for them, especially in this modern world of lost hope and dreams. I get it, but perhaps we can find room somewhere in our heart to look at things differently. Warm greetings to you.
DeleteIt's true - never judge a book by its cover.
ReplyDeleteBe yourself - and you cannot go wrong in doing so.
I don't know. I think first impressions are important.
ReplyDeleteAnd when it comes to REAL books...absolutely judge by the cover. If the cover is amateurish, then the novel probably is too. It should tweak genuine interest in the tone.
First impressions are important indeed -I could do a whole post on that. However, I do get your perspective and where you are coming from. Our points are both debatable and that's a good thing. It's nice of you to drop by!
DeleteI am a bibliophile, so naturally this post caught my attention right away!
ReplyDeleteNow, when I see a book cover that catches my eye, I open it and read a few lines here and there. If I feel that it truly has something that touches my heart, my soul or my mind, I add it to my library.
People are different...more complex. As an example, I used to work with a woman who always seemed cold, aloof. She even looked gray and almost stone colored, statue like! We worked together eight hours a day, five days a week for decades. We became close friends. Inside she was a warm and caring person. If she had been a book... I probably would have left her on the shelf. Thankfully, we both took the time to look beyond the
dust jackets and get to know the story inside.
Great post!!!!!
Jan, that is a beautiful story and its wonderful that you could get close to her to become friends, looking beyond appearances. Thank you for sharing and it was very heartwarming. Greetings!
DeleteYes, friend B ... Thank you. Love, cat.
ReplyDeleteOh I can SO relate to this post!
ReplyDeleteThere is far too much pretense...everywhere you look these days.
And what is the point of that?
As you so rightly say, the truth will out eventually anyway...so pretending you're something you're not is a total waste of time.
As for books, well, yes, I've been caught out many times...impressive looking cover enclosing utter rubbish...and conversely, plain cover with engrossing content!
Many thanks for this, "B"...was a real pleasure to read.:))
Wise, true words. After all it´s much work to pretend all the time and I´ve seen one or another who accidentially showed his true (ugly) face...
ReplyDeleteThe greatest treasures can be in the worst looking covers. Be kind covers eveyone!
ReplyDeleteI think people are the same as books, you have to 'read' them for a while before you can decide if you want to finish the story.
ReplyDeleteLots of interesting thoughts here... I do agree that we should not make final decisions based on first impressions, but they can certainly play a large role in our assumptions (which we do all make, whether we want to admit it or not!).
ReplyDeleteAs for real books.... an appealing cover can certainly catch my eye (or make me pass over it, if not appealing), but that's only a starting point. :)
That is so true.. but we can't help it, can we? It happens at a sub-conscious level
ReplyDeleteThank you for your wonderful comment in my last post
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Akanksha
The cover gets your attention. But then you have to open it and start reading.
ReplyDeleteThis is a wonderful post! It's definitely more important to understand the depth inside a book or person rather than just to assume what may be. But sadly it happens. I think the world would be a much better place if we just got to know each other for who we are, and to accept. Happy Monday and thanks so much for your words of wisdom! Hugs...
ReplyDeleteAs long as they don't break my spine or tear out my pages I am good. I try to do the same for them.
ReplyDeletereally like that last paragraph. so true.
ReplyDeleteHere here!!! Never change for anyone but yourself! I am a cautious person when it comes to people/society/humanity. Yes, this is all due to life experience and I am more likely to distrust before trusting - always. I think that this keeps me safe. If someone wants to be a part of my life, they have to earn my trust. Am I missing out on potentially good people in my life? Maybe...but I'm also quite content living a reclusive life with my bf and our pets. I think it's just the way of the world these days. Maybe people will somehow become good again and the cycle will change back to peace and love between humans, I don't hold my breath though. And with my attitude, I'm still a very positive and happy gal! :)
ReplyDeleteHow interesting, lots to think about here.
ReplyDeleteIn a bookshop I would pick up a book with a good cover, then read a little bit of the inside. As for people, the first impression is often wrong but often right too.
Thanks for the interesting post! Have a nice day)
ReplyDeleteHi Blogoratti - great analogy ... we never know what we will find in a book, or how it will develop ... much as we live our life ... but what are we going to turn into, and learn as we grow ... wonderful - cheers Hilary
ReplyDeleteIndeed. I try not to judge people by outward appearance but experience sometimes makes me skeptical.
ReplyDelete...I right keep putting one foot in front of the other.
ReplyDeleteSo true. However, I think that some people neglect to write in their book and spend too much time on the cover. Still would hold true not to judge by it though. :)
ReplyDeleteExcellent post (as always)!Thank you very much :)
ReplyDeleteYes, we must stay true to ourselves - our book covers must do a better job of allowing others to know the richness of the words that make up our being.
ReplyDeleteBlessings!
Love and light to you ~ wonderful reminders in your post ~ I would add 'angels can fly because they take themselves lightly' which is what I am working on ~ day by day ~ ^_^
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I love the idea that our lives are books. Very clever image. :)
ReplyDeleteAs someone who stands 6'-6" and has a rough looking face that scared young, inexperienced lieutenants while I was in the army I have myself been wrongfully jugged numerous times. Making matters worse when I'm found to be more than affable there have been more than a few people who try and take advantage of me believing I am somehow naive.
ReplyDeleteThis has caused me to keep people at arms length and become quite the cynic.
What a really wonderful, thoughtful post. Your last line especially is wise and "quotable." I just love what you said, "Be yourself at all times and those who like you for you will stay to hear your story and help create new and meaningful chapters."
ReplyDeleteYou're right, but the reality is that I know I'm judged very negatively for my appearance.
ReplyDeleteLove,
Janie
People and books, great analogy.
ReplyDeleteThis is a valuable and well put together post. In the charity business this is very important (not judging and people's tendency to judge).
ReplyDeleteA very good analogy comparing books and people and one which I admittedly had not considered before. It's sometimes hard to judge a book by the outside cover and the same applies to people.
ReplyDelete"Be yourself at all times and those who like you for you will stay to hear your story and help create new and meaningful chapters."
ReplyDeleteIndeed
Thanks for dropping by by blog today
much love...
Very true! We shouldn't by books by their covers and people shouldn't be judged on their appearance either. Good lessons for everyone. :)
ReplyDelete~Jess
A powerful message.
ReplyDeleteI'm thankful I found your blog.
Kind regards, Chris
Some people never look underneath. They're generally not worth knowing.
ReplyDeleteNever judge a book by it's cover unless you have read the story or at least a few chapters. I often look beyond the surface as there is so much going on inside. The pages in between are what develops character. Some people will be there for us and some will not. I think it comes down to the plot.
ReplyDeletepeace, light and love
DeleteSO true. You never know someones story until you turn the cover.
ReplyDeleteI try so hard to not make assumptions about people based on their appearance. It's not easy. But we had a hotel for gays and lesbians with kids a while back. A beautiful, blonde, punk-style young woman arrived with a little girl. She told me her wife was out in the parking lot, so I went to help with luggage. I found a "guy" with a shaved head and what looked like gang tattoos covering his head and neck unloading the car. This was the wife, Rebecca (or Beck); she had had a rough childhood and was now a gifted computer graphic artist. They returned a few times over our two years in business. Beck was one of the most gentle and kind people I ever met. Lesson learned.
ReplyDeleteWonderful post, and this line "Be yourself at all times and those who like you for you will stay to hear your story and help create new and meaningful chapters", is sort of similar to something I've told my children and grandchildren and anyone else who would listen. I also add to "do what is good and right" no matter what others think or say. Go to bed with a clean conscience and sleep well. Thanks for a great post. Enjoy your day!
ReplyDeleteRead more: http://blogoratti.blogspot.com/2017/08/never-judge-book-by-its-cover.html#ixzz4r94sTWU5
That has always been my devise since I am adult, being myself and not play a role for somebody else !
ReplyDeleteWe're all guilty of this at least once B, all we can do is be more open minded and way less judgemental!
ReplyDeleteThis is so true. It is not that easy, though. i easily can get tricked by beautiful packaging....
ReplyDeleteWow great advice just to be yourself.
ReplyDeleteMost of the books that we have read over these many years had "plain covers" (and few , if any, pictures)...
ReplyDeleteWe have no choice but to be ourselves..
This is a fantastic, wonderful post!! Thank you!! Big Hugs!
ReplyDeleteSo true! Lovely post!
ReplyDeleteVery clear website, thanks for this post.
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